A Learning Process 4 All


Sometimes, we feel as though our parents do not understand where we are coming from. However, we also fail to realize our parents' position. Our way of thinking is selfish. We do not stop to notice that our parents did not get a chance to practice being parents before we came along. This is our first time being young adults and this is their first time raising young adults. Our parents may figure out, later, that they could have handled a situation differently and make note to change the way they handle it in the future. However, it is NEVER our position to bring that to their attention. Whether or not we agree with a decision that is made, we are to obey and honor them only.

When we get into something, our parents, probably, think about how their parents handled a similar situation and how they felt about the situation that was made. Then, they decide how they should handle the situation with us. Afterwards, if they feel that their way was effective, they will continue to do things that way. If they find that their way was not a success, they will figure out a different way of handling things. I am almost sure when we become parents, we will do some of the same things.

I used to feel like I was at a disadvantage, because my parents would handle things with me one way and would not do the same with my younger siblings. In a way, the oldest children are the guinea pigs, because parents experiment with us. Once our parents are comfortable with making parenting decisions, they let up on some things with the other children or crack down on them when it comes to something else. Things will get better though, if we all work together. So, let us cut our parents some slack. We are all learning together.